Are you someone with ADHD who constantly finds new hobbies only to abandon them quickly, leaving behind a trail of wasted money and guilt? If so, you’re not alone. Many with ADHD experience this cycle, but the good news is that there are ways to enjoy new interests without the financial and emotional aftermath. As an ADHD coach, I’m here to share some tips to help you make more mindful decisions about your hobbies.
1. Try Before You Buy
One of the best ways to determine if a hobby is right for you is to try it out without making a big financial commitment. Look for opportunities to borrow or rent equipment. Many communities have “Buy Nothing” groups where you can request items on loan. Libraries, friends, and family are also great resources for borrowing gear. This approach allows you to test the waters before diving in.
Example: Borrow a food processor or cake decorating kit before deciding you are going to take up being a great cook.
2. Start Small and Affordable
If you’re convinced that a hobby is for you, begin with the basics. Avoid the temptation to purchase the top-of-the-line equipment right away. Opt for second-hand items or starter kits. This not only saves money but also gives you the chance to grow into the hobby gradually. If your interest persists, you can always upgrade later.
Example: For your first set of golf clubs, buy a used set at a relatively cheap price.
3. Wait It Out
Patience can be your best ally. If you find a potential hobby, give it some time. See if your interest remains strong after a few weeks or months. This waiting period can prevent impulsive spending and help you make more deliberate decisions.
Example: The desire to take up metal detecting followed me around for several years before I bought a metal detector.
4. Make It Seasonal
Consider making certain hobbies seasonal to keep your interest fresh. By designating specific times of the year for certain activities, you can maintain enthusiasm without feeling overwhelmed. This approach can also free you from the guilt of not engaging in the hobby year-round.
Example: I don’t like the cold so metal detecting is a summer hobby. Quilting could be something only done in the winter.
5. Separate Shopping from Doing
Shopping for hobby supplies can be exciting, but it’s different from actually engaging in the hobby. Be mindful of this distinction and resist the urge to buy supplies until you’re ready to start the activity. This can prevent the accumulation of unused materials and the associated guilt.
Example: Buying beads and charms is a lot of fun, but actually creating jewelry might not be.
6. Use Cash
Avoid using credit cards for new hobbies. If a hobby truly interests you, it’s worth saving up for. Paying in cash ensures that you’re committed and prevents debt from impulsive purchases.
Example: The metal detector was expensive, so knowing I planned to pay up front for it made me think more carefully about starting.
7. Align with Other Goals
Link your hobby to other personal goals. Connecting hobbies to broader goals can enhance motivation and satisfaction.
Example: Learning guitar could be a good way to spend time with another family member who is doing so. Metal detecting encourages me to get out into nature which is good for my mental health.
8. Declutter Regularly
Regularly assess your hobbies and let go of those that no longer interest you. Selling or donating unused equipment can make room for new interests and alleviate the mental burden of unfinished projects.
Example: I sold my guitar when I accepted it was only causing guilt when I saw it. Maybe someday I’ll come back to it, but for now, I no longer have the mental or physical clutter.
9. Join a Group
Being part of a group or community can reinforce your commitment to a hobby. Whether it’s a class, club, or group of friends, having a social aspect can make the experience more enjoyable and sustainable.
Example: Any sport or active activity. Form a coding group or sewing circle.
Final Thoughts
Not every interest needs to become a hobby. It’s perfectly okay to try something new and move on if it doesn’t stick. The key is to approach new hobbies with mindfulness and intention, ensuring they enrich your life without unnecessary financial or emotional cost.
If you found these tips helpful, please share this guide with friends or family who might benefit. Remember, it’s about enjoying life’s experiences without the regret of wasted resources.
This article aims to provide practical advice tailored to individuals with ADHD who want to engage in hobbies more sustainably. By following these tips, you can enjoy new experiences without the common pitfalls of impulsive spending and guilt.
